Best handcuff-friendly positions

1) Standing wrap — wrists in front

One partner lifts the other at the hips while the cuffed partner keeps wrists together at chest height. Great for quick scenes and playful teasing. Use a wall for back support if needed.

2) Kneel and lift — wrists in front

Receiver kneels while the standing partner offers hip support or a thigh to lean on. Easy eye contact and verbal feedback. Add a folded towel under knees.

3) Standing wall — wrists up

Receiver faces a wall with hands raised. Cuff to an anchor point or keep wrists together overhead. Keep sessions short and add breaks to shake out shoulders.

4) Headboard wrists up — face up

Receiver lies on their back with wrists secured above the head to a sturdy headboard or under-bed restraints. Add a pillow under hips to reduce low-back strain.

5) Side spoon — wrists in front

Both partners on their sides with the cuffed partner’s wrists together at the belly. Ultra low strain and great for vibration play. Perfect if shoulders are sensitive.

6) Reverse spoon — wrists in front

Receiver faces away but hips are angled slightly back toward the partner. More range for thrusting or wand play while keeping wrists comfortable.

7) Over pillow from behind — wrists in front

Place a firm pillow under chest or hips so the spine stays long and wrists rest on the pillow edge. Lots of access with minimal pressure on shoulders.

8) Cowgirl — wrists in front

Receiver on top with wrists together at the sternum. They control depth and pace while the base partner supports hips or thighs.

9) Reverse cowgirl — wrists in front

Receiver faces away to change angles and reduce eye fatigue for shyer partners. Great with a low headboard or a wedge for knee comfort.

10) Edge kneel — wrists in front

Receiver kneels at the mattress edge while the partner stands or kneels in front. Easy to adjust height with pillows or a yoga block.

11) Seated lap — wrists in front

Receiver sits on partner’s lap facing away. Stable and intimate. Works well in armless chairs or on the bed with pillows behind the back.

12) Missionary — wrists in front

Receiver keeps wrists together at the chest or above the heart while the partner supports forearms. This keeps circulation flowing and makes mid-scene adjustments easy.

Safety quick-checks

• Agree on a safe word and a traffic-light check in system.

• Use comfortable cuffs with a quick release. Double-lock metal cuffs so they do not tighten.

• Favor wrists-in-front for longer scenes to protect shoulders and circulation.

• Do a 60-second circulation check. Look for numbness tingling or color change.

• Never leave a cuffed partner unattended.